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Go Therefore and Make Disciples


Our Relationship WIth Others


This you know, my beloved brethren.  But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.     James 1:19-20

I said, “I will guard my ways that I may not sin with my tongue; I will guard my mouth as with a muzzle…”   Psalm 39:1    

The apostle James tells us that the tongue is untamable.  You can never let down your guard when it comes to what you say.  The tongue is such a small part of the body, yet it’s capable of bringing incredible blessing or terrible destruction.  Which is it most of the time for you?  Does your tongue affirm, build up and encourage or does it hurt, tear down and discourage?  Sadly, it can do both from the same person on the same day.  It is amazing that something so small and insignificant can unleash missiles that can do damage that will linger for a lifetime.  Each one of us can probably remember a hurtful word from a dear friend or spouse, or from childhood. 

The tongue has to be brought under the Lordship of Christ like everything else if it is ever going to bring blessing to those around you.  If your tongue is something that often hurts others, then it will take a daily surrendering (and “muzzling”) for it to change, and to bring blessing instead.  Take some time to think about the things that come out of your mouth and the effect your words have on those around you.  It is not too late to have it be different and to become a person who speaks life to family, friends and acquaintances.   When was the last time you encouraged someone? 


If someone paid you ten cents for every kind word you said about people, and collected five cents for every unkind word, would you be rich or poor?

                                                         Henry N. Ferguson


Preaching is not the only way we declare the Gospel of Christ.  Our lives also should be witnesses to others of the reality of Christ.  Those who have affected me most profoundly in my life have not necessarily been great or eloquent preachers, but men and women of God whose lives were marked by holiness and Christlikeness.  The Gospel must be communicated not only by our lips but by our lives.  This is a visual proof that the message we preach actually can change lives.  Our world today is looking for men and women with integrity, for communicators who back up their ministry with their lives.  Our preaching emerges out of what we are.

                                                         Billy Graham


Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.

                                                         Mother Teresa 


  • Who in your life needs to hear encouraging words from you?  What can you do this week to remedy that?
  • How can you daily practice having your words be a blessing and not a curse to those around you?
  • How will you apply the truths in this topic to your life this week?  Be specific.

Additional Quotes

Every man is a priest, even involuntarily; his conduct is an unspoken sermon, which is forever preaching to others.    H.F. Amiel

verses related to this topic

  • Psalm 39:1

    Psalm 39:1

    I said, "I will guard my ways that I may not sin with my tongue; I will guard my mouth as with a muzzle while the wicked are in my presence."

  • Proverbs 10:19-20

    Proverbs 10:19-20

    When there are many words, transgression is unavoidable, but he who restrains his lips is wise. The tongue of the righteous is as choice silver, the heart of the wicked is worth little.

  • Proverbs 12:18

    Proverbs 12:18

    There is one who speaks rashly like the thrusts of a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.

  • Proverbs 21:23

    Proverbs 21:23

    He who guards his mouth and his tongue, guards his soul from troubles.

  • Proverbs 26:28

    Proverbs 26:28

    A lying tongue hates those it crushes, and a flattering mouth works ruin.

  • Ephesians 4:29

    Ephesians 4:29

    Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear.

  • Colossians 4:6

    Colossians 4:6

    Let your speech always be with grace, as though seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should respond to each person.

  • 1 Timothy 4:13-14

    1 Timothy 4:13-14

    Until I come, give attention to the public reading of Scripture, to exhortation and teaching. Do not neglect the spiritual gift within you, which was bestowed on you through prophetic utterance with the laying on of hands by the presbytery.

  • James 1:19-20

    James 1:19-20

    This you know, my beloved brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger; for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.

  • James 1:26

    James 1:26

    If anyone thinks himself to be religious, and yet does not bridle his tongue but deceives his own heart, this man’s religion is worthless.

  • James 3:3-11

    James 3:3-11

    (8-10) But no one can tame the tongue; it is a restless evil and full of deadly poison. With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the likeness of God; from the same mouth come both blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be this way.

  • James 4:11

    James 4:11

    Do not speak against one another, brethren. He who speaks against a brother or judges his brother, speaks against the law and judges the law; but if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge of it.

books related to this topic

  • The Weight of Your Words

    The Weight of Your Words

    Stowell looks at the impact of our words and how we can change our speech by applying God’s Word. With this guide, readers can detect harsh, self-centered speaking habits and replace them with words that heal, help, encourage, and warm others--all guided by the Holy Spirit.

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